One of the most important things in life is learning to find your inner peace. We all have so many things going on in our day to day, that it’s easy to forget to sit down and reflect on things. Relationships that may have expired, a job you have outgrown, or just that nagging feeling that something isn’t quite right in your life, are all things that can tip the scales one way or another to make us feel out of whack. None of which is doing us any good.
Last night, PDot and I met up with some friends we haven’t seen in a very, very long time. We all belonged to the same organization for several years. Pdot and B have known each other for really most of my adult life. Always have been the best of friends, through some really hard times in each other’s lives. J and B have been dating for a long time, have a beautiful toddler (it’s weird to even think that!), and are engaged. They were truly people we both considered family. Until they weren’t.
Life has a funny way of making things happen. Bringing people together, tearing them apart, and all of the things in between. One thing I’ve learned about myself and about other people is that you can’t predict how some things will go. Unfortunately, our relationship with B&J deteriorated to a point where we were all had a lot of hurt feelings. There weren’t enough “sorry’s” to go around or to fix what had been broken. It was a huge loss in our lives.
Fast forward to about this time last year, when things had started to finally come back around. J had reached out to me to tell me that she was sorry about everything that had gone on between us. I accepted her apology, but I really wasn’t ready to let them back into my life just yet. Not because I was harboring a grudge or anything, but it just wasn’t time yet. I had things to think about.
The biggest life lesson I have learned up to this point is sometimes things just need time. Time to run their course. Anger and sadness NEED time. I have been in situations that I have been hurt, and I wanted so badly to be able to forgive all the wrongdoings in my life and move on. But it just wasn’t time for that. Until one day, you just realize that it’s finally time to let it all go. And that is always the best day. You’re broken heart is full again. How wonderful is that?
We stopped in for a drink to meet up with B&J, and seeing them walk through the door, I knew that it was time to let go. I was so happy to see them. And everything that had transpired before, didn’t matter anymore. We all laughed and talked and shared stories of the past couple of years. We saw pictures of the baby we all waited so anxiously for a few years ago, in toddler form. Talked about old memories and future happenings, and lived truly in the moment.
When it was time for us to go, we all promised we’d see each other again soon, and I know that is a promise we can all keep now. I went home feeling assuaged. A burden had been lifted, and now my heart is so full.
I hope that everyone can find that kind of peace. Learn to reflect, learn to forgive, learn to move on, and realize that all of those things are on their own timetable.